Being successful in business involves three things: long hours, travel, and home-life balance. In today’s world, it also means hyper vigilance of how our children use technology. Cell phones are super computers that allow us to keep tabs on our loved ones, but can also give our children access to a virtual quagmire of potential criminal trouble.
Whether it is innocent distribution of nude photos or videos, cyberbullying, texting while driving, or catfishing—technology requires constant awareness of how and when your children are online.
What’s the solution? Parental controls? Limitations on internet access? The fear of God? These are certainly viable short-term solutions, but perhaps the best one is having tough conversations about the power of these devices. The wrong text, video, or social media post can derail a child’s life. It can also expose them to becoming the victim of predators. If you are going to give a child access to these devices, one that can literally shape their future in the palm of their hands, it has to be paired with parental responsibility and education.
Areas to Watch
• Classroom apps that allow peer-to-peer or peer-to-teacher sharing of photos, texts and videos
• Dating apps—swiping left or right is a huge red flag
• Social media apps and friend lists (including Messenger). Be mindful of “extra” profiles registered to the child’s app
• Snapchat or apps that promote encrypted communication or advertise deletion of messages (nothing is ever completely deleted)
• Forum communication apps that allow large group communication
• Browser search histories
• Banking apps and financial activity you install and use on your mobile devices
• Fake profiles that your child may be using
• Video gaming apps and consoles that allow private messaging
• Home entertainment devices that access the internet
Monitoring
If you give your child a mobile device that has access to the internet, whether a phone, laptop, or tablet, then you should strongly consider monitoring technology or software that allows location tracking, usage, and calls and messaging. These security mechanisms are not expensive, but are highly effective in monitoring your child’s usage.